During New Year's Day, my brother sent a video, saying his second child is three years old, a girl, weighing over 40 kilograms and 1.1 meters tall. She loves to eat various meat-containing foods and rice, flour, and sugar, but doesn't like vegetables. He mentioned wanting to check her pituitary gland secretion.
When I showed him the parrot, he found it interesting that the parrot could step onto his hand and asked how that was achieved.
It also has to do with food; if it doesn't step onto your hand, you let it go hungry for about 12 hours, then hold some millet in your hand. The desire to eat overcomes the fear, and it steps up to eat. Once it tastes the food, it gradually gets used to stepping onto your hand to eat. Eventually, even when there's no food in your hand, it won't be afraid to stand on you in any position.
My child is the same; if he misbehaves, I let him go hungry and don't let him eat. If he doesn't eat vegetables, then he doesn't get to eat anything at all. First, he goes hungry until he decides to eat.
My brother and sister-in-law are both busy working to earn money and have hired a nanny to take care of the child. They probably won't spoil the child as much as we, the relatively free biological parents, do.
The nanny takes care of the child without crying or fussing, providing good food and drink, and as long as the child doesn't get hurt, she has pretty much completed her KPI assessment.
If you let the nanny use hunger methods, physical punishment, scolding, or yelling, others might think the nanny is the biological mother.
But can you get used to it?
You say the money isn't enough, hire a more professional one; in fact, it just brings the KPI assessment closer to parental education principles, but there will always be a gap, especially when they are young.
You say orphanages also produce talented individuals. I haven't researched this, but I guess sensitivity and tension carry on throughout life, which is why they excel.
As they grow older, children no longer listen to their grandparents. Obedience and compliance are just superficial efforts.
I won't say more. I'm planning to buy a 戒棍戒尺. Using slippers to hit just doesn't feel right.
It seems the second child is no longer afraid of hunger.