Introduction#
Recently, I read "Child Education Psychology." In response to Ye Weiyang, regarding Education – ACEVS, I concluded by saying that the essence of the matter is simple, and the positive content is also quite straightforward. However, putting it into practice is difficult.
Why is it difficult to practice? Simple things are not necessarily easy. The children of teachers, lawyers, doctors, and police officers may not be well-educated and might even create a significant sense of disparity. The aforementioned professions are highly valued and recognized in society; they bring the sense of societal recognition home, which may inadvertently guide their children in the wrong direction. For instance, there are many examples of children misusing the status of adults. Education occurs in three places: family, school, and society. Schools also have their drawbacks, such as a lack of attention to children. In family education, parents often take shortcuts, using methods from their own upbringing without learning from others' experiences.
Laziness#
This difficulty is linked to diligence; diligence is a state of being, a positive state, while the opposite state is one of inaction, which is laziness. They should not be viewed in opposition, just like cold and hot are merely temperatures or states of molecular motion. If one perceives heat as good, the sun's intense activity lacks life; at least, according to current scientific definitions, life has not been discovered there, although there may be more advanced forms of life that our technology cannot detect. Conversely, the relatively cold Earth, amidst the vast silence of the universe, has life, albeit possibly less advanced forms.
Laziness is a habit acquired by humans. The book presents an interesting viewpoint: people generally do not care about the matter itself but rather about their opinions and perspectives on it, which primarily reflects sociality. For example, the incident of calling a deer a horse mainly depends on your viewpoint; the event itself is also viewed through your perspective.
Benefits of Laziness#
Children are lazy because they gain benefits; they develop personalities, attract attention, and have a shield. When things do not go well, laziness seems to be the inherent reason. Similar terms to laziness include lack of time, carelessness, lack of money, and lack of motivation. Although I am already an adult, I still have these habits and flaws, along with other strong distractions, such as categorizing tasks into four types: important, unimportant, urgent, and non-urgent, and particularly focusing on results, whether fame and fortune are involved.
Many things become too lazy to do; if work does not pay, yet you continue, then it is a job you love.
Laziness can lower others' expectations of you. A small improvement from a lazy person is seen as quite impressive. For instance, if a person who drinks soda every day suddenly stops, others might think it's remarkable. The same goes for smoking. Conversely, if a diligent person fails, people might wonder if their intelligence is lacking, or if they have bad luck or incorrect methods. Laziness can also serve as a cover for insufficient ability; for example, I am too lazy to code because I have done some coding and know that while running it is easy, debugging bugs is not, and stitching code together into a cohesive whole is also challenging, especially without tutorials. So, it is genuinely a lack of ability; software is commonly used, and when installing software, one first checks how many users there are and how many tutorials are available. For instance, I recently tried the Atom editor but uninstalled it after finding no tutorials for the latest version 1.6.3.
Laziness is also the foundation of progress; it cannot be denied. Command-line operations and mouse-based window operations, as well as various modes of transportation replacing walking and running, are all advancements. The tools have progressed, while we have regressed in certain functions. If we think further, silicon-based life as a tool has replaced tool users.
Aspirations#
The sparrow knows not the ambition of the swan.
Aspirations should be high and far-reaching. First, take a look at this “Che Guevara” who stole electric scooters is still in prison, yet countless companies are waiting at his home, offering hefty contracts | Incarceration | Promotion | Internet Celebrity.
Stealing knowledge also implies learning. Directly stealing items is theft, which is unacceptable.
From the perspective of internet celebrities, he has already succeeded.
With grand aspirations, one cannot possibly work for others in this lifetime.
In fact, working for others is also a form of stealing knowledge; Che Guevara does not understand this.
Thus, aspirations are often judged by external success, as society and schools tend to evaluate in this manner. For example, a certain fund manager gives their child several thousand yuan in pocket money each month to help them attract girls at school and shows off in WeChat groups. This has even trended online.
My aspiration is to be an astronaut, which is completely unrealistic. The only benefit is that once, when a pyramid scheme tried to recruit me, they asked about my aspirations, and once I mentioned it, they stopped being so eager to persuade me.
Looking back, it is actually about exploring the unknown, which differs from traveling the world; the latter is about exploring locations.
Family education should focus more on internal qualities. It is better to cultivate children's courage, resilience, confidence, self-discipline, and exploration.
Educating children should not be delayed; it often leads to confusion later on.
It is also about educating oneself; reading is like looking in a mirror to see what one is like.
Correcting one's attire and mindset.